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‘I was nervous to ask for your socials’: why missed connection posts are making a comeback | Dating

Layla Rivera was at work when her boyfriend texted: someone on Reddit was looking for her.
In the comments of a post on the subreddit r/warpedtour, attendees of the punk rock and emo music festival searched for their missed connections – ephemeral friends or hookups they met onsite and would like to see again. Rivera could tell that one message, addressed “to Leila/Layla (the short girl with the red top)”, was almost certainly written by a man she encountered while watching the band Sweet Pill at Warped Tour’s Washington DC stop in June.
“You tapped my shoulder and asked me to help you crowd surf,” the man wrote. “I picked you up, but no one around me wanted to help you crowd surf so I awkwardly had to put you back down. First, I’m sorry I couldn’t help more and second, I thought you were cute and even after I saw you later I was nervous to ask for your number or socials.”
The post’s writer shared his Instagram handle. Rivera, who is 29 and works in real estate, reached out. She told him that while she had a boyfriend, she found his message sweet, and she appreciated his help with her crowd surfing mission. The pair became friends over DM. They have plans to attend the same DC stint of Warped Tour together next year.
“I would love to meet up and maybe try for him to catapult me up into the sky again,” Rivera said. “I do have a boyfriend, but I’m glad we can be friends.”
Rivera, who straddles the gen Z-millennial cusp, did not grow up reading Craigslist’s missed connections. In those posts, people tried to reach strangers they shared fleeting moments with on the train or in line at the grocery store. Anyone who wouldn’t dare write their own came for the voyeuristic entertainment value, or maybe the secret hope that they were memorable enough to spark interest from a stranger.
The posts were popular, little oddities reminding readers of the charmingly random nature of city living. In 2010, Craigslist estimated that there were nearly 8,000 new ads posted to New York City’s missed connections page a week.
Craigslist’s missed connection posts live on. (Recently posted on New York’s page: “We met at a barbecue in Rockaway,” “We locked eyes for the longest time on 86th.”) But the rise of social media and dating apps certainly dulled its cultural influence. A decade later, young people eager to shoot their shot have revived the tradition on Reddit and TikTok.
On Reddit, pages like r/warpedtour host missed connection “megathreads”, where commenters write about their own encounters and optimistically leave their contact information. Subreddits for cities including Baltimore, Chicago, Cincinnati, Minneapolis and Richmond, Virginia, have joined in. Ditto for the music festivals Bonnaroo, Coachella and Electric Forest, as well as the Berlin techno club Berghain (where phones are all but verboten on the dancefloor, making for many missed connections).
“I’m looking for the beautiful woman with amazing eyes [at] Popeyes,” wrote one Redditor in Halifax, Nova Scotia. Someone in Arlington, Virginia, is searching for the woman he met at a bar – while he was on a date with someone else. In St Louis, someone visiting their father in a hospital chemo ward saw a stranger crying in the hallway and stopped to pray with them; the stranger was still in their thoughts.
Young people say that in romantic contexts the practice is an antidote to dating fatigue, promising to fulfill that ultimate urban fantasy: locking eyes on a crowded subway platform and being so unforgettable that it compels a stranger to fall in love with you. It’s an analogue alternative to dating apps, romanticized in older comedies such as Desperately Seeking Susan and Sleepless in Seattle.
“You move to a big city and are so filled with this hope for chance encounters and magical moments at every turn,” said Maggie Hertz, a DJ at the New Jersey free-form radio station WFMU and host of Cat Bomb!, an all-cassette show that also plays missed connections from listeners who phone in. “There’s nothing more vulnerable than writing a missed connection.”
Hertz said that none of the missed connections on her show have led to real-life meet-ups – at least that she knows about. That doesn’t take away from the fun.
“My favorite came in at three in the morning,” Hertz said. “She sounded so excited and nervous and probably still drunk. She was at a diner in Brooklyn and there was a waiter there who she said looked like Jake Gyllenhaal. She was all gushy about him.”
Last month, Karly Laliberte was exiting a Trader Joe’s in Boston’s Seaport neighborhood when she spotted a cute guy walking with his friends. “He was tall, which is a rarity in Boston,” said Laliberte, who is 30 and in sports marketing. “It’s a stereotype that’s sort of true: we call it ‘Short King City’.” In the movie version of their almost-encounter, she would cast Jacob Elordi. They walked in the same direction for a few blocks, and Laliberte could “feel his eyes” staring at her. She almost said hello, but stopped herself. She didn’t want to interrupt his conversation.
Laliberte got home and filmed a TikTok, pleading with viewers to help her identify this man, with only his height and a description of his outfit to go on. “Within hours, it had 50,000 views,” she said. “On TikTok, you can tag your city, so any video you post can be seen widely, locally. That made it seem like a logical place to post a missed connections. It felt a little vulnerable to put myself out there, but people did want to help.”
Though she never found the man, Laliberte received messages from people offering Instagram handles of men they thought it could be. And they got pretty close – one was a man she already dated.
Laliberte has spent years on dating apps, always orbiting the same group of people. She’s tired of swiping and wants an old-fashioned meet cute. “There’s this desire to connect in-person,” she said. “I’m craving a connection that’s organic and less forced.” Why not try to find the person who made eyes at you outside of a Trader Joe’s?
While younger adults may be discovering missed connections, the practice predates even its Craigslist origins. Francesca Beauman – British historian and author of Shapely Ankle Preferr’d, a book about the history of lonely-hearts ads from 1695-2010 – has traced the first of its kind back to 1709.
Published in the Tatler (now called Tatler), the ad said: “A gentleman who, on the 20th incident, had the honor to conduct a lady out of a boat at Whitehall Stairs, desires to know where he may wait for her.” The woman was instructed to contact a Mr Samuel Reeves. Beauman found a marriage record a year later under that same name. There’s no way to know if the union came out of that missed connection, but she hopes that’s the case.
Three hundred years later, and there’s still little evidence the strategy works for finding true love. But people keep trying. Sometimes, there’s a glimmer of hope. The actor Colman Domingo recently revealed that he met his husband via a 2005 missed connections post. (They made serious eye contact at a Walgreens in Berkeley, California.) And while Laliberte didn’t find her tall guy, she said she would “100%” post another missed connection.
“We’re all incurable romantics and enormously deluded,” Beauman said. “It’s fun to read them, just as much fun as it is to place or respond.”
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AI Research Healthcare: Transforming Drug Discovery –

Artificial intelligence (AI) is transforming the pharmaceutical industry. More and more, AI is being used in drug discovery to predict which drugs might work and speed up the whole development process.
But here’s something you probably didn’t see coming: some of the same AI tools that help find new drug candidates are now being used to catch insurance fraud. It’s an innovative cross-industry application that’s essential in protecting the integrity of healthcare systems.
AI’s Core Role in Drug Discovery
The field of drug discovery involves multiple stages, including initial compound screening and preclinical testing to clinical trials and regulatory framework compliance. These steps are time-consuming, expensive, and often risky. Traditional methods can take over a decade and cost billions, and success rates remain frustratingly low. This is where AI-powered drug discovery comes in.
The technology taps machine learning algorithms, deep learning, and advanced analytics so researchers can process vast amounts of molecular and clinical data. As such, pharmaceutical firms and biotech companies can reduce the cost and time required in traditional drug discovery processes.
AI trends in drug discovery cover a broad range of applications, too. For instance, specialized AI platforms for the life sciences are now used to enhance drug discovery workflows, streamline clinical trial analytics, and accelerate regulatory submissions by automating tasks like report reviews and literature screenings. This type of technology demonstrates how machine learning can automatically sift through hundreds of models to identify the optimal one that best fits the data, a process that is far more efficient than manual methods.
In the oncology segment, for example, it’s responsible for innovative precision medicine treatments that target specific genetic mutations in cancer patients. Similar approaches are used in studies for:
- Neurodegenerative diseases
- Cardiovascular diseases
- Chronic diseases
- Metabolic diseases
- Infectious disease segments
Rapid development is critical in such fields, and AI offers great help in making the process more efficient. These applications will likely extend to emerging diseases as AI continues to evolve. Experts even predict that the AI drug discovery market will grow from around USD$1.5 billion in 2023 to between USD$20.30 billion by 2030. Advanced technologies, increased availability of healthcare data, and substantial investments in healthcare technology are the main drivers for its growth.
From Molecules to Fraud Patterns
So, how do AI-assisted drug discovery tools end up playing a role in insurance fraud detection? It’s all about pattern recognition. The AI-based tools used in drug optimization can analyze chemical structures and molecular libraries to find hidden correlations. In the insurance industry, the same capability can scan through patient populations, treatment claims, and medical records to identify suspicious billing or treatment patterns.
The applications in drug discovery often require processing terabytes of data from research institutions, contract research organizations, and pharmaceutical sectors. In fraud detection, the inputs are different—claims data, treatment histories, and reimbursement requests. The analytical methods remain similar, however. Both use unsupervised learning to flag anomalies and predictive analytics to forecast outcomes, whether that’s a promising therapeutic drug or a suspicious claim.
Practical Applications In and Out of the Lab
Let’s break down how this dual application works in real-world scenarios:
- In the lab: AI helps identify small-molecule drugs, perform high-throughput screening, and refine clinical trial designs. Using generation models and computational power, scientists can simulate trial outcomes and optimize patient recruitment strategies, leading to better trial outcomes and fewer delays and ensure drug safety.
- In insurance fraud detection: Advanced analytics can detect billing inconsistencies, unusual prescription patterns, or claims that don’t align with approved therapeutic product development pathways. It protects insurance systems from losing funds that could otherwise support genuine patients and innovative therapies.
This shared analytical backbone creates an environment for innovation that benefits both the pharmaceutical sector and healthcare insurers.
Challenges and Future Outlook
The integration of AI in drug discovery and insurance fraud detection is promising, but it comes with challenges. Patient data privacy, for instance, is a major concern for both applications, whether it’s clinical trial information or insurance claims data. The regulatory framework around healthcare data is constantly changing, and companies need to stay compliant across both pharmaceutical and insurance sectors.
On the fraud detection side, AI systems need to balance catching real fraud without flagging legitimate claims. False positives can delay patient care and create administrative headaches. Also, fraudsters are getting more sophisticated, so detection algorithms need constant updates to stay ahead.
Despite these hurdles, the market growth for these integrated solutions is expected to outpace other applications due to their dual benefits. With rising healthcare costs and more complex fraud schemes, insurance companies are under increasing pressure to protect their systems while still covering legitimate treatments.
Looking ahead, AI-driven fraud detection is likely to become more sophisticated as it learns from drug discovery patterns. And as healthcare fraud becomes more complex and treatment options expand, we can expect these cross-industry AI solutions to play an even bigger role in protecting healthcare dollars.
Final Thoughts
The crossover between AI drug discovery tools and insurance fraud detection shows how pattern recognition technology can solve problems across different industries. What started as a way to find new medicines is now helping catch fraudulent claims and protect healthcare dollars.
For patients, this dual approach means both faster access to new treatments and better protection of the insurance systems that help pay for their care. For the industry, it’s about getting more value from AI investments; the same technology that helps develop drugs can also stop fraud from draining resources. It’s a smart example of how one innovation can strengthen healthcare from multiple angles.
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Research Tip Sheet: AI and Heart Failure Plus Recent Headlines

LOS ANGELES (Sept. 12, 2025) — An artificial intelligence (AI) program created by Cedars-Sinai may reduce hospitalizations in people diagnosed with heart failure, a new study reports.
The study, published in JACC: Heart Failure, included 50 people who had been diagnosed with a condition called heart failure with reduced ejection fraction, in which the heart’s main pumping chamber, the left ventricle, becomes too weak to circulate blood throughout the body.
For three months, patients used a smartphone app to transmit home blood pressure readings to their cardiologists. The blood pressure readings were analyzed by an AI program that generated prescribing recommendations to the cardiologists, such as whether a new drug should be added or a dosage changed. The software, named HF-AI (for heart failure AI) was trained using data from Cedars-Sinai patients with heart failure between 2020 to 2022 and incorporates national and international heart failure guidelines.
Cardiologists accepted HF-AI medication and dose recommendations 90.8% of the time. This meant they more than doubled their use of guideline-directed heart failure medications. The program also dramatically decreased hospitalizations. Among the 50 enrolled patients, 23 were hospitalized in the six months before enrolling in the trial. In the six months after the intervention, only six were hospitalized, a 74% reduction.
Investigators plan to use and study the program with more Cedars-Sinai patients.
“People with heart failure are among our most fragile patients, with extremely high risk of hospitalization and death,” said first author and co-inventor Raj Khandwalla, MD, division chief of Cardiology at Cedars-Sinai Medical Group and director of Digital Therapeutics at the Smidt Heart Institute. “By translating home blood pressure data into treatment advice, HF-AI lets us fine-tune medications sooner and keep more patients out of the hospital.”
This study was funded by Cedars-Sinai Technology Ventures.
“This research is a testament to the mission of Cedars-Sinai Technology Ventures to invest in innovative technology and improve clinical outcomes for patients,” said James Laur, JD, chief intellectual property officer for Technology Ventures.
Other Cedars-Sinai authors of the study include Alex Shvartser, MS; Raymond J. Zimmer, MD; Merije Chukumerije, MD; Michael Share, MD; Ronit Zadikany, MD; Michael Farkouh, MD; Yaron Elad, MD; and Michelle Maya Kittleson, MD, PHD.
Gregg Fonarow, MD, of UCLA Medical Center also authored the study.
Declaration of interests: The paper describes software that is the subject of U.S. Provisional Patent Application number 63/314,207, filed by Cedars-Sinai Medical Center on February 25, 2022. Dr. Fonarow has done consulting for Abbott, Amgen, AstraZeneca, Bayer, Boehringer Ingelheim, Cytokinetics, Eli Lilly, Johnson and Johnson, Medtronic, Merck, Novartis, and Pfizer. All other authors have reported that they have no relationships relevant to the contents of this paper to disclose.
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The AI’s inescapable rulebook
Now let’s apply this to your AI. Its rulebook is the vast dataset it was trained on. It has ingested a significant portion of human knowledge, but that knowledge is itself a finite, inconsistent, and incomplete system. It contains contradictions, falsehoods, and, most importantly, gaps.
An AI, operating purely within its training data, is like a manager who refuses to think outside the company manual. When faced with a query that falls into one of Gödel’s gaps – a question where the answer is true but not provable from its data – the AI does not have the human capacity to say, “I do not know,” or to seek entirely new information. Its core programming is to respond. So, it does what the OpenAI paper describes: it auto-completes, or hallucinates. It creates a plausible-sounding reality based on the patterns in its data.
The AI invents a financial figure because the pattern suggests a number should be there. It cites a non-existent regulatory case because the pattern of legal language is persuasive. It designs a product feature that is physically impossible because the training data contains both engineering truths and science fiction.
The AI’s hallucination is not simply a technical failure; it is a Gödelian inevitability. It is the system’s attempt to be complete, which forces it to become inconsistent, unless the system says, “I don’t know,” in which case the system would be consistent but incomplete. Interestingly. OpenAI’s latest model has a feature billed as an improvement – namely its “abstention rate” (the rate at which the model admits that it cannot provide an answer). This rate has gone from about 1% in previous models to over 50% in GPT-5.
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